No. It's such a simple word and it's so easy to say. Kids learn it way before they learn yes. Then why is it that we are such "yes" people?
When I was in college I was in a fraternity and became very popular at one point. I was active with several other groups on campus and was a leader. I was a "yes" man. Yes- I can do that. And that. And that. And that... It got to the point where the conversations I had with people I ran into on campus weren't about sports, weather, politics, or anything usual but simply became a chance to share just how busy you were. Things aren't much different now, either.
In the world of education, you must be all things at all times to all people. Grades are expected instantaneously, email and phone communication must be done immediately. There are so many things expected of a teacher at school it is impossible to do it all!
For 7 years I coached three sports, led the school's FCA program, volunteered at church, served on committees, and still attempted to be a good husband, father, friend, and employee.
Never again.
I will never spread myself so thin that everything I do gets only a small sliver of me. I will never say yes because it will please someone else while hurting me.
I will say no.
Say it with me: "No." It's easy, and oh so freeing. What's that you say? Kids in Center Grove play 4 sports at a time and have games every day all year round? Mine won't. Parents are supposed to work long hours and volunteer at clubs or church? Not if it gets in the way of my family.
I have said no. I am a quitter. I quit coaching two of the three sports and plan to quit the other next year. I quit leading FCA. I quit volunteering weekly at church. I have more quitting to do, too.
Try it.
Right now, today. What is getting in your way? You have something taking up time you don't want to give. Quit. Do something valuable with your time. Go swing your kids. Snuggle and read a book. Exercise. Cook dinner with your spouse. Live your life on purpose, not on schedule.
I dare you.
